The purpose of “I just want to screw you”…a guy that comes along, playing the game with you and you notice that all he wants to do is have sex with you and aren’t willing to give you the love or attention that all women so often desire. If you so decide, and believe that his dick is worth keeping around, place that guy in this category. You make the rules and let him know that this is an understanding to which no feelings will be exchanged but I need you to make me feel good from time to time. If you can handle this arrangement, then let the categories begin, until you’re ready to replace him. As in all the categories, if they prove to be a potential candidate for the “partner” role, then maybe we can reconsider some things and move him over to the recycle bin.
The “recycle” bin is for all the men that you have categorized and given another use for that has demonstrated they are may have the tools to serve as your “partner”. These are the guys that have King like qualities but are still in Prince development mode. You kinda like them, but they haven’t made the right moves yet to convince you that they want to play on the same side with you. However, if one day they do prove themselves to be a King, they have the potential to be that King and partner with his Queen that they have found in you. As I have mentioned in a previous blog, I believe that all guys are good guys, but it all depends on who they want to be good to. And if being good to you is not being demonstrated towards you, then clearly you’re not the one that he wants. If he categorizes you, then you should be able to determine which one that you’re in, if not, you may be in Checkmate or need to fold this hand before you end up getting your feelings hurt. If you don’t know the role you play, it is easy for you to lose the game.
But then you have this “friends” category that so many guys in up in. These are the guys that you find that they are not compatible with you, but they treat you really nice, but there is something about them that just don’t match up with you. Whatever that reason may be, they can’t hold the “partner” role but you believe that they should still remain in your life…in this game that is, then move him to this category and allow the blessings of great restaurants, cool conversations, and fun hang outs to encompass you. Like I said, all guys are good guys, its just who they want to be good to…and now I add to say, all good guys are not for you…so don’t jump on the first one that comes along as they may not be the equally yoked partnership that plays by the same rules that you do.
And finally, you have the “disposable” trash can, and this is just that. The ones that come along and right off the back you know dang gon well that this person has no business being in your life for any purpose or reason. It could be the married man that’s been trying to make you the side chick, it could be the ex-boyfriend that has a new girlfriend but wants you to remain in his life because of history you shared, it could be the guy that smacked you upside your head once before, it could be that boss that’s been trying to persuade you to come into his office after hours, it could be a list or variety of different things, yet and still, they don’t belong in the same league with you and they should be disposed of. These are the guys that can cause more harm and damage than to bring you happiness and joy…as in winning any game…the main focus and prize is to obtain happiness and joy.
This happiness should be shared with the one that you call “partner”, the one that has fought this battle with you, loved you unconditionally even when you cut him with a spade when he was winning the hand. This is the person that strategized with you to determine how you both were going to win, leaving only the King and his Queen on the board. This is the person that remained in the “partner” seat because he gave you no reason to place him in a category. His pursuit of you demonstrated that he only wanted to be with you and you felt the same for him. It’s a beautiful thing when this occurs, a friendship develops, you understand what moves each other is going to make even before they do it, you can look at them in the face and know if they are working with something good or if you need to pick up the slack where he is lacking…this is the person that you take every where you go, because you don’t want to risk the possibility of losing a game with another random person because you know this person is going to win the game with you….this is that king that has king qualities and knows his role…because now you’re official partners.
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